Punishing Children is Easy, But Disciplining Them is Rewarding
Feb 24, 2015 12:56PM ● Published by Pamela Hampton
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There seems to be some confusion between discipline and punishment, so let’s clear the air.
The dictionary definition of discipline says training to improve strength or self-control. One thing I teach my kids is to tell the truth. I always tell them that I work better with the truth.
I know kids will do things that will make you pause, step back and ponder. But if they are honest about what happened, it will help calm your nerves.
A couple days before my son started guitar lessons at Fox River Academy of Music and Art he was in my bathroom, and he noticed the comb that goes on my hairdryer. In his mind the comb looked like a little guitar so he began to play it. Needless to say quite a few of the teeth broke off.
My son is very creative so he decided to get some glue and put the teeth back on. Later that night at dinner he said, “OK, OK mom I will tell you the truth.”
I had no idea what was going on so I was very curious to know what he was talking about. I sat quietly while he gathered his thoughts, because I didn’t want to make his confession any more difficult than it already was. He told me the whole story and ended with “I told the truth.”
Later, I thought about what he said and the fact my son told the truth, even though he knew there would be consequences. As parents we have to understand the more we discipline the less we have to punish. My children are disciplined to tell the truth. Now I have to work on getting them to not touch my things.
It may be easier to punish, but it is more rewarding to discipline.
Kid 2 Kid
Let there be no mistake, my kids like all other kids do questionable things. So, I asked my kids what have you done that you think I don’t know about?
My son said reluctantly one day at school he had to move his clip down because another student told a lie about him. My son told the teacher the truth about what happened and he was able to move his clip up.
My daughter said that about 5 years ago she used a decorative bathroom towel to clean up toothpaste. She said she wasn’t sure what those towels were for, so she used it.
Time for me to go over all the things in
the bathroom they should not touch!
I am an Oswego mom to two wonderful kids and the wife of the greatest man I know. I have written 3 children’s books all about my kids, the stories are true and the material is endless. I have a Bachelor’s Degree from Chicago State University and a Master’s Degree from DeVry’s Keller School of Management. You can catch me around town shopping, at the movies or volunteering at my kids' school.
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